se maquiller + a teenager's right to wear makeup?
Friday, March 11, 2011
Our little girl is growing up and writing her own anecdotes! Read Jackie's story "Ma Routine" in French and in English, below. Mille mercis to our Francophone friend Newforest for helping with corrections. (The picture was taken when Jackie was 7... and lagging behind on a field trip... in time to cueillir quelques fleurs.)
se maquiller (seuh ma kee ay) verb
: to put on makeup
le maquillage = makeup
le maquilleur (la maquilleuse) = makeup artist
Selon vous, à partir de quel âge une fille peut-elle commencer à se maquiller pour aller en cours? In your opinion, from what age can a girl begin to wear makeup to class?
Ma Routine… par Jackie Espinasse, 13 ans
In the morning I wake up between 7:00 and 7:10. My mom has to wake me up because, at that hour, I am still too tired to open my eyes and get out of bed! (Mom) makes me wake up because I really have to go to school (to junior high).
When I wake up, my first reflex is to look out the little window in my hallway to see what the weather is like outside; next, I go down the stairs and see my dogs, who are always excited at this hour because they want me to feed them breakfast.
So, I serve them something to eat, then, after, I eat while half asleep.
When I finish eating I go back up to my room, I turn on the radio, and I get dressed – all the while listening to music. Then, I fix my hair and, while fixing my hair I always ask myself the same question: “Why don’t my parents want me to put on makeup?” Personally, I do not like my face without base makeup, without black eyeliner, without (liquid) liner, and without mascara. If you ask me, I find it sad that my parents deprive me of makeup (to wear to school) because, what’s more, it is my makeup that I have paid for myself with my pocket money!
To all readers: Would you, please, tell my parents that this is not fair? Well, anyway, after this little morning routine, I brush my teeth and, finally, around 8:10, Mom drives me in the car to school. So there you have it. P.S.: I don’t like junior high!
(READ IT IN FRENCH NOW...)
Le matin je me lève entre sept heures et sept heures dix. C’est ma mère qui est obligée de me réveiller, car à cette heure-là, je suis encore trop fatiguée pour ouvrir les yeux et sortir du lit ! Elle m’oblige à me lever, car il faut bien que j’aille au collège.
Quand je me lève, mon premier réflexe c’est de regarder à la petite fenêtre de mon couloir pour voir quel temps il fait dehors. Ensuite, je descends les escaliers, et je vois mes chiens qui sont toujours excités à cette heure-là car ils veulent que je leur donne leur petit déjeuner.
Alors, je leur sers à manger, puis, après, je mange, tout en étant à moitié endormie.
Quand j’ai fini de manger, je monte dans ma chambre, j’allume la radio, et je m’habille tout en écoutant de la musique. Puis je me coiffe et, en me coiffant, je me pose toujours cette même question: « Pourquoi mes parents ne veulent-ils pas que je me maquille ? » Moi, personnellement, je n’aime pas mon visage quand il est sans fond de teint, sans crayon noir, sans liner, et sans mascara ! Pour ma part, je trouve ça triste que mes parents me privent de maquillage pour aller au collège car, en plus de ça, c’est mon maquillage que j’ai payé moi-même, avec mon argent de poche!
« A tous les lecteurs » :
Pouvez-vous, s’il vous plaît, dire à mes parents que c’est injuste ?
Mais bon, bref, après cette petite routine matinale, je me brosse les dents, et finalement, vers huit heures dix, Maman me conduit en voiture au collège.
P.S. : Je n’aime pas le collège !
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Here is my translation. Feel free to edit and or add your own.
"My Routine…" by Jackie Espinasse, 13-years-old
In the morning I wake up between 7:00 and 7:10. My mom who has to wake me up because, at that hour, I am still too tired to open my eyes and get out of bed! (Mom) makes me wake up because I really have to go to school (to junior high).
When I wake up, my first reflex is to look out the little window in my hallway to see what the weather is like outside; next, I go down the stairs and see my dogs, who are always excited at this hour because they want me to feed them breakfast.
So, I serve them something to eat, then, after, I eat while half asleep.
When I finish eating I go back up to my room, I turn on the radio and I get dressed – all the while listening to music. Then, I fix my hair and, while fixing my hair I always ask myself the same question: “Why don’t my parents want me to put on makeup?” Personally, I do not like my face without base makeup, without black eyeliner, without (liquid) liner, and without mascara. If you ask me, I find it sad that my parents deprive me of makeup (to wear to school) because, what’s more, it is my makeup that I have paid for myself with my pocket money!
“To all readers”:
Would you, please, tell my parents that this is not fair?
Well, anyway, after this little morning routine, I brush my teeth and, finally, around 8:10, Mom drives me in the car to school.
So there you have it.
P.S.: I don’t like junior high!
Posted by: Kristin Espinasse | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 10:08 AM
"Wait, I think I've seen a duck," "Forget the duck look at my kangaroo impersonation!"
Posted by: angela billows | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 11:34 AM
I don't live very far from you, a little south in the BdR. One of daughters is almost 13 and I don't let her wear make-up to"collège" yet. My idea is that she can wear it when she goes to the "lycee". But when she goes to a party with her friends, then, she can wear all the make-up she wants. Sorry if I'm not any help for your cause.
ps Our dog Duffy would love to come and jump in those vines with Braise and Smokey!
Posted by: meredith | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 11:46 AM
hi jackie! I support your cause, but understand your parents at the same time. How about a compromise? I think you should be able to wear base makeup and maybe a little but of lipgloss...but not much more! You have so many years ahead of you to wear makeup! Besides, I think you have a very pretty face and makeup would hide that! Not very long ago I was in highschool (7 yrs ago), and when I look back at some of the pics I cant believe all the gunk I put on my face! Now, Im 25 and wear very little makeup. Let us know what the verdict is! saludos desde españa ;)
Posted by: Lorena | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 12:00 PM
Thanks for writing this story. It really helps me with my French.
My daughter is 16 and when she first started wearing makeup she was about your age. When she bought her own, we let her wear A LITTLE bit - no heavy liners and no foundation to school. On weekends she could wear more but ended up having breakouts on her face.
There are two things I always told my daughter: 1. the more macquillage you wear the worse you'll THINK you look when you don't wear it. It plays tricks on you. 2. Several times in my life, boys told me that they LOVED that I didn't wear all of that makeup like other girls wore. In truth, I did wear SOME but I guess it looked more natural.
Anyway - you have stunning natural looks. We are not all blessed with that trait. Have fun with your femininity but show your beauty as naturally as you can.
Keep writing!! You are VERY good.
Posted by: Karen W (Towson, Maryland) | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 12:01 PM
Oh my gosh - my daughter is 18, not 16 - your really transported back in time this morning! Time for another cup of coffee!!
Posted by: Karen W (Towson, Maryland) | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 12:03 PM
Braise: "I've just got to break out of this 2 bit farm again. I dream of my free days in Marseilles with my love."
Smokey: "Not me. Nope. Yippee. Good in here. Bad out there. Not me. Nope. Yippee."
Posted by: Karen W (Towson, Maryland) | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 12:23 PM
Angela and Karen. I am cracking up re your thought bubbles. Excellent!!! Thanks for the belly laughs. Well done :-)
Meredith, Lorena, and Karen, Merci for sharing your views on make-up. Max, Jackie's brother, prefers girls sans maquillage (or with so little that you can't tell anyway!).
Duffy, Braise and Smokey say youre welcome to cruise the vines with them, anytime.
Posted by: Kristin Espinasse | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 12:44 PM
Thanks for letting us get to know Jackie a bit better. She seems to have her mom's flair for telling a story!
My wife Bettie and I had a wonderful "Rouge-Bleu" wine dinner Wednesday night at Bouchon in Asheville. Meeting Jean-Marc and listening to him talk about his wines was a special treat. We really enjoyed the Mistral and Dentelle and were very impressed at what he has accomplished. I can see why you're proud of him! I was also impressed that several of your readers came from as far as Georgia and Alabama to participate!
Posted by: Charles Orr, Flat Rock, NC | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 01:20 PM
Here's my attempt:
Regarde, Smokey, il ya une caille!
Au diable avec ca, Maman, j'entends l'ouverture de porte du frigo!
And what I'm trying to have them say:
Look, Smokey, there's a quail!
To heck with that, Mom, I hear the fridge door opening!
Jackie, merci milles fois pour le redaction. (Sorry I can't do accents at all in this program.)
Kristin-Ah, la guerre de maquillage...goes with the age. And if it's not that it's the war-of-something-else. One wonders where one's charming child went and who this obnoxious stranger is! The poor parents need to keep their circle of loving rules & standards firmly linked around their offspring, who will beat & beat against these bars. It may take years for those children to acknowledge that the rules often saved them from folly and those standards helped them to become strong and good adults.
Posted by: Zann | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 01:36 PM
Jackie, here's a man's perspective. If that is your picture that accompanies the story, your "need" for make-up is minimal at best totally unnecessary at worst. I too believe less is more. When I was growing up we used to watch a TV program called "Father knows best". I used to laugh at that thought, but now, looking back, it was true. Mom and Dad, having more life experience than I, usually (read "always") knew better than I, the right decisions to make. Of course, every once in a while they let me make my own mistakes so I could learn from experience and not just instruction. One last thought; any boy who is worthy of you will be much less concerned by what or how much make up you wear than by the song that your character sings to his heart.
Posted by: Tom from Detroit | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 01:39 PM
Cher Jackie -
Je suis désolé, mai tes parents ont raison. Ma femme et mois, nous ne permettrons pas notre fille se maquiller (sauf les occasions spécials) jusqu'à ce qu'elle ira aux lycée.
En plus de ça, ton visage est tres jolie sans le maquillage (dans les photos de ta mère, pas ci-dessus, bien sûr). Quand on n'aime pas son visage, c'est tres triste.
Posted by: Bruce T. Paddock | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 02:00 PM
I loved the story ...and I am so happy that I was able to translate so much of it. "Car" gave me trouble. I am not familiar with that. With the translation, I would say "my mom FORCES me" rather than "OBLIGES me," just because that sounds more like something a teenager would say over here. :). You know, so VERY dramatic!
(walt Disney world @ the moment)
Posted by: Amy | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 02:09 PM
I understand your frustration, but with that face, who needs le maquillage? Let others be jealous of your natural beauty - beauty that they can't even get from a bottle...
Kristi - I love the picture - and laughed out loud at your caption!!
Posted by: LeNora | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 02:16 PM
Smokey: Bacon! Less work.
Posted by: Sue J. | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 02:35 PM
La fille cherche d'etre femme. La plupart des femmes cherchent d'etre encore une fille. C'est la force de son ame qui reste.
Posted by: Nicholas Nixon | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 02:50 PM
I loved reading this and was happy that I could read every word in French. Your daughter is darling and I'm sure makeup is not really needed, but it is fun. My granddaughter, at 15, has a ton of it. Maybe when Jackie is 15 she will also hang out at the French version of Ulta!
Posted by: Betty Bailey | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 02:52 PM
It is nice to know that teens are the same all over the world! Jackie you are beautiful like your mother and grandmother.
They are both very wise women so listen to their advice and stories well. Enjoy your youth. Life is short.
Posted by: Andrea Robinson | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 02:53 PM
Thanks for your story. I was surprised that I could understand most of it. I think you are beautiful without make-up but I understand all young women want to try it. I believe my daughter Tara was in 8th grade when I allowed her to use a little foundation, lip gloss, eyeshadow and mascara. I think it enhances your beauty if you don't overdo it! Make it natural looking. I never allowed Tara to use kohl or dark liner around her eyes. It is just to severe and not natural looking. Whenever she had to go to a dance or the prom she would always ask me to do her make-up because she liked the way I put it on so it was natural.
I don't know if you have Bare Minerals in France but it is a very nice powder foundation that looks natural. They make blush and eye shadows too.
Posted by: Eileen deCamp | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 02:56 PM
I loved reading your essay; thank you for giving us a glimpse of your daily routine. The question about make-up and when it's ok to start wearing it to school is one that has divided parents and daughters for a long time! I will soon be having this same dialogue with my own daughter. I think that today make-up can mean different things to parents and their teenage daughters. For teens, it's often a way of not just looking better, but distinguishing yourself as an individual--like clothing, a kind of artistic expression about who you are. For parents, make-up can be about looking older, growing up too fast, being influenced by cultural dictates about how females "should" look, and attracting the wrong kind of attention. What are your parents' specific concerns? I'm all for self expression, but within reasonable limits... I like what other readers have said about finding a compromise. By the way, you are a beautiful girl and I'm betting a lot of your friends don't think you need make-up to improve your looks!
Posted by: Stefanie J., Boston | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 03:24 PM
Comme tous les autres lecteurs te l'on dit, tu es tres belle sans maquillage. Mais je te comprends absolument,car je suis blonde et pale aussi et un peu de rimmel et de rose sur les joues aident beaucoup. Ma maman ne m'a jamais laisse mettre de maquillage avant 17 ans...et on se disputait a ce sujet tous les jours!!! Ma fille Lily a 16 ans, et quand elle a eu 14 ans et qu'elle a voulu se maquiller un peu, je lui ai dit OK, mais comme toi elle se paye ses produits, alors elle les economisait en se maquillant pour sortir. A 16 ans elle se maquillait pour aller a l'ecole, mais son nouveau boyfriend l'aime mieux sans, alors maintenent elle ne se maquille presque plus.( et je la trouve mieux sans...)
Si tu n'aimes pas le college, pourquoi gaspiller ton maquillage pour y aller?
Je suis sure que ta maman te laisserait mettre du rimmel sur tes cils, parceque si tu as les cils blonds comme moi, je mets du rimmel marron et ca aide vachement pour faire ressortir les yeux.
L'autre chose qui aide beaucoup pour la paleur c'est le soleil ( avec beaucoup de creme solaire) et l'exercise, 2 produits de beaute naturels et gratuits!!!
J'ai oublie de dire que les fonds de teint et les poudres te bouchent les pores et puis tout d'un coup tu as plein de boutons...c'est pas facile d'etre " a teen" ( une ado) mais tu as de la chance d'etre nee tres belle !!!
J'epere faire ta connaissance cet ete et je t'amenerai des nouveaux maquillages pour ta collection.
Et tu ecris tres bien.
Et ton papa m'a dit que tu parles bien anglais aussi!!
Posted by: Suzanne Codi, Washington, DC | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 03:31 PM
Jackie, When in doubt, go with the pros! When convenient, have your mother take you to a professional make-up artist. It will be worth the effort and money compared to the debates between you and your parents. Let a professional make-up artist show you how to apply just enough for your special face. Honestly, the photo shows waaaaaaaaay too much make up on you and I live in Texas where women like to load on the eyeliner!!!
Posted by: [email protected] | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 03:36 PM
Jackie - you encourage me! I completely understood your essay and did not require any translation.
You are so pretty and the make up makes you look terrible! I agree with the comment that you should go to a make up artist if you must wear make up at all. Like most young women who start wearing makeup - you apply too much and the wrong colors. Make up should enhance your natural beauty but if the photo is what you look like in make up it makes you look like a "lady of the nigt".
Posted by: Lana Stephens | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 03:48 PM
Jackie, merci pour l'histoire sur ta routine matinale. Bravo, tu écris merveilleusement bien. J'en étais ravie. Mon point de vue c'est plutôt celui de tes parents. C'est, je dois dire, le point de vue d'une femme qui a passé l'age de cette beauté fraiche que tous les filles de ton age possèdent ! Je sais qu'elles n'apprecient pas leur beauté naturelle et vraiment, c'est dommage. D'ailleurs, tu a une beauté tout à fait unique. Peut-ètre pour les fêtes, tu pourrais te maquiller un peu, mais pour tous les jours, tu n'en pas besoin.
Posted by: Leslie in Massachusetts | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 03:56 PM
Jackie, less eyeliner, some lipgloss, a natural base and a bit of mascara. Gosh, you are so beautiful you can make all the other girls jealous with your gorgeous looks sans the make-up. It's hard for Moms and Dads to see their daughters (and sons) grow up. Be patient with them. ;)
Posted by: Linda C in Tulsa OK | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 04:08 PM
I am so happy that you took the time to write about your feelings. Please write as often as possible. Your next subject is "What I like to do on the weekends". As far as makeup goes, I say the less is better
Posted by: Grampa Kip | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 04:10 PM
The trick to make up - which you don't need because you are absolutely gorgeous with out it - is to apply it so it appears you are not wearing any. If you learn how to do that, everyone will be happy. Your Mom won't be able to tell you're wearing it :)!
If I was there, I would show you how.
However, the most important thing is to know that you are a natural beauty and be grateful for that. It's a blessing that you will grow to appreciate.
Posted by: jeanne | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 04:14 PM
Tu es magnifique sans maquillage.
Je comprends aussi pourquoi tu es tentee de ressembler a beaucoup d'autres jeunes filles qui se maquillent...
Un peu de mascara, un gloss sur tes levres et cela suffit...Surtout protege ta peau contre les intemperies.
Joelle Mandica Ramsey - Waco, Texas.
Posted by: Joelle Andree Mandica Ramsey | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 04:17 PM
Jackie, when I was your age my parents didn't allow me to wear any makeup other than lipstick. A popular girl wore a lot of makeup and said she was envious of my unblemished skin. My suggestion would be, don't use a foundation/base, take it easy on the eyeliner except for special occasions. You are a beautiful young woman and sometimes less is more is the best rule with makeup. That is...less makeup makes you look more beautiful.
Posted by: martina | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 04:21 PM
Your story reminded me just how much I hated junior high school ... I don't know anyone who liked it. When I was your age, lip gloss only for school and some mascara and eyeliner for parties.
My 17 year old goddaughter started wearing make-up when she was your age but I'm not sure she wore it to school. She is now a professional ballerina so she wears heavy theatrical make-up for performances. She did a lot of research online to purchase make-up that would not harm her young skin and was also not tested on animals.
My recommendation is to do this gradually.
Posted by: Suzanne, Monroe Twp., NJ | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 04:25 PM
Chere Jackie, c'est dommage que tu n'aimes pas le collège. Mon fils n'a pas aimé le collège, non plus, mais il a adoré le lycée! Alors, courage! Il faut beaucoup de courage quand tu es une "teen". J'ai enseigné dans un collège le plus part de ma carrière. C'est pas facile d'être jeune. Mais tu as de la chance car tu as deux parents qui t'aiment et qui veulent te protéger. Continue, s'il te plaît, avec tes écritures et donne-nous un autre histoire bientôt! Merci! Dis à ta mère "bonjour". Bisous!
Posted by: Candy in SW KS | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 04:46 PM
A Grandma talking here . I think 13 is too young for make up . I'm sure you have beautiful skin , so don't ply it with make-up now . When you are 17 perhaps ? You will find eventually as you get older it will look better on a more mature face .As Bernard Shaw said " Youth is wasted on the young",or in other words don't try & grow up too quickly.
By the way I was a teacher & the girls at my school were not allowed to wear ANY make-up at all until they were in the 6th form & aged 17/ 18 and then only very light make-up.
Stay young & beautiful !!
Posted by: Audrey Wilson | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 04:52 PM
Hi Suzanne, this is such a small world, yesterday I was looking at photo's of your goddaughter on your FB page. In a way she reminded me of Jackie while I was admiring her photo's - she is indeed beautiful, classical, exotic, and European beauty all mixed up into one beautiful young lady.XOXO JULES
Posted by: Jules Greer | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 04:59 PM
If Jackie is a responsible girl, (as a mother of two college age girls) I'd say let her make decisions on things that are not really serious matters. My concern on the other hand, is that she thinks she does not LIKE her face without makeup.
Posted by: Marilynn Gottlieb | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 05:12 PM
My mother did not permit me to wear make-up either when I was in junior high. That was in the early 1980s when heavy make-up was all the rage. Fortunately, when I started 8th grade, she relented and I piled on the blue eyeshadow and black eye liner an inch thick. I cringe looking back at those photos from my youth. Vous etes si belle avec une visage au naturel!
(Avocate, Orlando, FL, 40 ans)
Posted by: Marilyn | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 05:24 PM
It's funny but I've copied your commentaries and now It's apart of my collection to help me further to learn French! See I'm from Jamaica and I love languages and French is my fave, but enough about me... I too had your problem, when I was 14 in Catholic school ( all girls ) I wore mascara all the time and kept getting in trouble aka "detention".. so I feel your pain but hang in there.. wait hey did you know there is mascara that has a clear liquid that gives your lashes definition, without the color? here is a really cool website for skin care www.dhc.com , maybe share it with Kristine hmm maybe the tides will turn in your favor! Lol take care and grow with grace!
Posted by: Alyicia | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 05:31 PM
While your picture is quite lovely, perhaps that's the problem. I'm sure you've scared your father to death! He knows how beautiful you are with and without makeup and now all the world (read: teen-age boys) will realize it too. I teach at a high school in El Paso, Texas. Generally girls begin wearing eye-liner and mascara at 14, in the 8th or 9th grade. Hopefully 14 is not too far off for you!
Posted by: Amy Stell | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 05:39 PM
Great story Jackie, less is more...
"Smokey, mom got a go, got a go, got a go now!!!"
Posted by: Danville | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 05:47 PM
I teach French in Greenville, South Carolina. We just finished a chapter on daily routines and reflexive verbs. This was great to show to my students!!!
Posted by: JerriLynn | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 05:57 PM
When my daughter was 13, and insisting on wearing makeup, "All my friends are wearing it." her mother and I forbade her wearing it. After a particularly heated exchange she stormed out of the house to her friend's house across the street, was gone for several hours, came home with her hair cut and vividly died, in a spikey purple mohawk.
Posted by: David | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 05:57 PM
Jackie, merci beaucoup for your contribution to FWAD. I guess my French classes are paying off because I didn't need the translation to understand anything.
As for the makeup issue I'd say from all the photos your mother has posted that you just do not need the makeup to improve your looks. All through my daughter's young life (before junior high/middle school) professional photographers would stop me and and give me their cards in case my daughter wanted to start modeling. She didn't. But she knew people thought she was beautiful. But in middle school she started piling on the eye make-up "because everyone was doing it." I think the overloading of make-up she does has taken away from her natural beauty.
So here is my suggestion for you and your mother. Make a compromise of no make-up at school (except gloss) until high school, but you can wear it on the weekend and for major events. And visit a make-up counter together to have a professional show you how the "less is more" system really is the way to go.
Can't add any thought bubbles for the dogs better than what others have said.
And Kristin -- I LOVED the piece about you, Jules, and Jackie. How did I miss this?
Posted by: Julie F in St. Louis, MO | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 06:36 PM
Thank you for sharing your story, Jackie. Very sweet.. keep writing. Less is more definitely! And the question is; why do we want to wear makeup? To look like all the rest? runway girls at best. Think 'makeup' vs. 'enhancement'. A la natural enhancement is the BEST way to focus on the light that shines from within. When that light shines, no makeup can enhance it's beauty. It's a much larger statement to make.
Posted by: Cindylee | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 07:04 PM
Thank you for your story. You are a beautiful girl, just like your maman! You did a lovely job with your make-up, however, it is dramatic and more appropriate for an evening look. A fresh face is better for the day-time, if you feel you want to accentuate your beauty. Instead of utilizing foundation, go bare with a little lip gloss.(There are some with SPF 15 or 20 to protect them) Use a moisturizer with a little sunscreen every day to preserve your lovely complexion. Foundation is to even out uneven skin tones, (dark rings under eyes and dark spots)so protect your skin so you will never need it. I like a little bit of an earthy colored (brownish black)eyeliner on the top lid, at the outer third of the lash line to open up my eyes a little, lip gloss and clear mascara. Soon enough, your parents will let you wear the dramatic make-up at parties or on special occasions. I am positive that you don't need make-up, though!! :)
Posted by: Ronnie McCarthy | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 07:05 PM
Tu es déjà très belle sans maquillage! Profite bien de ta jeunesse et la beauté naturelle de ta peau. Je suis bien d'accord avec la phrase écrite ici "less is more".
Posted by: Julie Schorr | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 07:24 PM
When I was 12 I wanted to wear a little mascara and foundation, but my dad said no. I remember it as an unhappy time. I vowed if I ever had a daughter I would not repeat my dad's mistake. I never had a daughter, but here's my chance to offer some insight. As my mother once told me, always wear clothing and make-up that makes you feel comfortable in your own skin. I think my mom understood how important it was for me to wear a little make-up. I had very red hair, white-white skin, and pale lashes and I looked like a ghost without make-up. So . . . I'm on your side of this issue, as long as you don't go overboard. Ultimately, though, honor your mother and father and do as they instruct. That's what I did at your age, and I don't regret it. Best wishes, Debra Houston, Lilburn GA
Posted by: Debra Houston | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 07:52 PM
I LOVED reading Jackie's essay! It was really ood to read a whole story in French - and with words and actions which are so normal... I agree with one of the readers above, that Jackie seems so stunning just naturally, that she may not need makeup right now. But, I do understand that with blond hair, that sometime, one's eyes seem to fad into the background. So, I would think that some liner or light shadows might "feel" good. (Sorry Kirsten)
Posted by: [email protected] | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 08:11 PM
I loved Jackie's story and I really enjoy reading a whole story in French. I facilitate a conversation class at my Senior Centre each week but I find reading a story in French is most enjoyable and helpful..More from Jackie?
Posted by: Janette Calder, N. Vancouver, B.C., Canada | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 08:43 PM
Jackie, I would just say don't rush it! I wish I didn't feel like I had to wear make up just to leave the house I would love to have a young, beautiful face like you once again. You've got so many years to wear it and high school is just around the corner. (I'm pleased I was able to read and understand most of your story in French!)
Posted by: Dawn | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 09:20 PM
I think I was 11 or 12 years old when I started using make-up, but it was only mascara and lip gloss. I always thought "Less is More", so try to keep it looking natural. You are a very pretty girl and you really don't need it.
I enjoyed reading your story this morning in French. I remember feeling the same when I was your age. Later in life, being able to wear make-up or not really won't be as important as it feels right now.
Le moment, j'etais lecteur en francais...je ne compend pas une phrase, alors...pal mal...C'est Bon...non?!! :)
Merci beaucoup pour votre histoire!
Posted by: Lisa A., CA | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 09:23 PM
Aloha Jackie & Kristin. Jackie, congratulations on this effort to write and express yourself ... you have just contributed to the world around you by performing this action. Sharing your thoughts with others is a noble endeavor indeed. Kristin, congratulations on your path of nurturing and providing a great example to your daughter ... you have just contributed to the world around you by facilitating another creative mind in your own wonderful mold. HOWEVER, Ladies, I choose to not weigh in on the "Makeup Chronicles" because, as every wise man knows, putting oneself in the center of a Mother/Daughter issue is certain disaster! I will graze on berries from the other side of the mountain while Mama and Daughter pass and discuss the current issue .. to live another day! Mahalo Nui Loa for sharing, Ladies. Aloha, Bill Facker
Posted by: Bill Facker | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 09:51 PM
Thank you for your delightful essay. I was happy to be able to understand your French, as well. My two daughters played with makeup for years before they were allowed to go out of the house wearing it. Actually, they did wear it, but my rule was that if it attracted my notice, I sent them back inside to tone it down or remove it, depending on their age. By age 16, the novelty had worn off, so they both wore minimal makeup by then, rather than risk being sent back to fix it. They also enjoyed frequent trips to the makeup counter to have their makeup done professionally, as well. Looking back, we had very few battles over makeup, and both girls learned to apply makeup for a natural, daytime look, and also for more dramatic evening wear. Enjoy experimenting at home and save the sultry looks for special occasions.
Posted by: Mary Pace | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 10:08 PM
Moi aussi, je viens de finir la presentation des verbes reflechis (pronominaux?) en Francais II, et je pense que je leur montrerai ta composition, Jackie. Bon courage aveec tes parents; je n'y prends pas de position.
Une prof de Kankakee, Illinois
Posted by: Joan Linneman | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 10:11 PM
Sorry, Jackie, I just asked my daughter-in-law when her daughter (my five year old granddaughter) would be allowed to wear make-up. She said "When she's in [American] college..." I have always preferred the natural look (sans le maquillage).
Posted by: Bill in St. Paul | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 10:26 PM
Votre histoire etait bien interessante. J'espere que vous en ecrirez encore quelques-unes.
Quant au maquillage, je partage l'opinion majoritaire ici, qu'un minimum est meilleur, et beaucoup de garcons le preferent comme ca.
Je n'ai jamais mis beaucoup de maquillage. J'ai evite le mascara parce que je porte les lentilles de contact, et je ne veux pas risquer l'avoir dans mes yeux. Aussi, j'ai les cils assez fonces.
Des gens m'ont dit que j'ai l'air d'etre plus jeune que je ne le suis. Je pense que c'est parce que j'ai utilise peu de maquillage.
J'utilise chaque jour/soir les produits hydratants pour attenuer les rides et la secheresse.
Si je pouvais encore avoir la peau d'une demoiselle de 13 ans, je serais ravie. Je vous conseille de proteger la votre, car elle doit durer longtemps.
Posted by: Marianne Rankin | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 10:48 PM
Encore un petit mot. Ce qui aide au corps et au visage de paraitre plus beau, c'est la bonne sante. La nourriture (qui semble excellent chez vous), de l'exercice, et suffisamment de sommeil font une grande difference. Peut-etre que vous ayez besoin de plus de sommeil, afin de ne pas etre "a moitie endormie" pendant le petit dejeuner.
Posted by: Marianne Rankin | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 10:55 PM
Thank you, Jackie, for sharing today’s story. I so enjoyed reading it and it seems writing is a gift that comes naturally to you. It was fun to “be young again”…to see the morning through your eyes. There are so many wonderful comments here. I agree that just like your mom and grandmother, you are naturally beautiful. They are wise, good-hearted women who have walked through this before you, listen to them and allow time to see if it resonates in your own heart.
Is makeup, perhaps at your age, a form of self-expression? Expect for when I was showing my horses, or that stint of rocker-chic at the end of high school, I’ve worn little makeup my entire life. I am grateful I do not feel the need to wear it. I have friends who won’t leave the house without it. Seems like such a bother, and it’d get in the way of enjoying oneself while camping, swimming or hiking. May you enjoy the beauty that God has given you. You are so very young, so many years ahead to wear makeup if you choose.
I do hope you keep on sharing your writing. I’d love to hear about your love of riding, or your favorite horse. I look forward to reading more from you. Best wishes with junior high, it was not enjoyable for me either.
Posted by: Stacy, Applegate, Oregon | Friday, March 11, 2011 at 11:16 PM
Jackie........d'abord, tu es trop jolie pour faire de la maquillage....et deuxieumement, si tu fait la maquillage chaque matin, it te faut te lever beaucoup plus tot. C'est mieux de prendre encore plus de sommeil (faire de la grasse matinee). Et troisiemement Mlle, tu ecrit bien comme ta mere.
Posted by: Jed Christensen | Saturday, March 12, 2011 at 12:14 AM
Enjoyed another read of "Fille" today.
Posted by: Stacy, Applegate, Oregon | Saturday, March 12, 2011 at 12:15 AM
Merci for this trip back in time to the issues that weigh so heavily in the mind of a 13-year-old. At that age, my mother encouraged me to wear pale lipstick because my lips chapped easily. I don't remember urging her to let me wear more make-up because I was always in a hurry to go somewhere or do something so that I did not want to take the time to apply it. I later learned the hard way not to wear mascara and eyeliner on my lower lids because it runs when my eyes water in the sunlight or when I cry.
As a former teacher of writing, I admire Jackie's flow of composition that puts us right in the middle of her life. She advocates well for her point of view, regardless of whether it is proper for her time of life or not. She might do well on a debate team.
Posted by: mhwebb | Saturday, March 12, 2011 at 12:34 AM
Wonderful story. Beautiful girl. I think less is more in the long run myself. We all couldn't wait to grow up. Then when we get there, we want to go back again. ha ha
Braise- ahhh some quiet meditation time
Smokey - Wheeeeeeeee!
Posted by: Karen from Phoenix, AZ | Saturday, March 12, 2011 at 12:43 AM
Mama...mama... Kristy is in trouble!!! Quick Mama... Come!!!
Posted by: Marika Ujvari | Saturday, March 12, 2011 at 01:07 AM
Merci beaucoup jackie, for your lovely story! I think a compromise might be a good way to go...like if you want to wear 4 kinds of makeup (foundation, eye shadow, eye liner, mascara) pick 2 to wear and 2 not.
I think even just wearing plain mascara looks great--I started doing that in college when I was running late for class (just swipe on the mascara and go) and you still look like you're wearing makeup. I'm 24 now, and when I'm running late for work, I'll skip all the rest and just use mascara! :) Bonne chance!
Posted by: Heather | Saturday, March 12, 2011 at 02:36 AM
Merci, Jackie, for your essay today. I will copy it and use it for French language study. I can understand most of it, but...
As for makeup, so many have said it all already. Someone as naturally beautiful as you does not necessarily "need" makeup; but that is not the issue here. For young girls about your age, wearing makeup is a rite of passage; that is, it is part of moving from a young girl into a young woman. It is a natural desire on your part to want to feel "more grown up" and if other friends are wearing makeup, that increases your desire even more!
I applaud your patience and understanding of your parents wishes for you to wait a little while longer before wearing makeup to school. And when you do, you may find that just the lightest touches will enhance and bring out your natural beauty quite well! "Hang in there, chere Jackie!"
Posted by: Pat Cargill | Saturday, March 12, 2011 at 02:44 AM
Smokey: Up and away Mama...Chief Grape is away, we have the vinyards to ourselves, up and away! Try to catch me, Maman!
Braise: ...oh dear, can't we sleep in the sunshine a little while, my wild child?
Posted by: Pat Cargill | Saturday, March 12, 2011 at 02:46 AM
I will agree with Bill from above, as a Father and Grandfather, I would not get in that debate for or against but I have seen you up close, last year at the harvest, you have been given the Beauty you posess from you Mother and Grandmothers jeans along with your fathers family, you will suffer thru this trying time and emerge another Beauty in the Family tradition, Bonne chance. Lou
Posted by: lou bogue | Saturday, March 12, 2011 at 03:13 AM
Your parents (as you well know) want only the best for you and a beautiful young skin glowing with health and sparkling eyes is something one can never return to in later years! Actually there are lots of young girls now in Australia who don't wear makeup - they have seen the light and value their ingenue looks! Time goes by so quickly (even at the dreaded high school!) that in no time at all you'll be old enough to wear make-up. You are so lucky to be growing up beneath two flags and absorbing two languages even without trying too hard!! You're bound to come top in English!
Posted by: June Turner | Saturday, March 12, 2011 at 04:34 AM
Vous etes tres belle sans maquillage et aussi avec maquillage ! Quand j'etais jeune, c'etait contre les regles du college en Australie pour aller avec le maquillage (mais j'avais le mascara de l'age 15 ans). Sans maquillage vous feriez des economies de votre argent de poche pour un autre quelque chose.
Posted by: Jan Leishman | Saturday, March 12, 2011 at 06:49 AM
I loved reading your story! Write more, please! My oldest daughter is 20, and my youngest two, identical twins, will be 11 in May. My personal opinion in that makeup almost always detracts from natural beauty, (and you have more than your fair share!), so I discouraged my older daughter from wearing it in middle and high school. (and now, at age 20, she wears very minimal makeup) But, as some other readers have pointed out, this is really a minor issue, so I didn't "forbid" her to wear it. Besides, she would have just put it on after she got to school anyway. (which is what I did myself at age 12!!)
My youngest girls are just now beginning to experiment with makeup, and again, I don't encourage it, but I try not to make a big deal out of it either. Btw, they didn't like school either, so I took them out when they were only in second grade, and we do homeschooling/unschooling now, which has worked well for us. Unfortunately, I don't think this is allowed in France. A lot of our schooling involves horses. (You can see them with their ponies on our Facebook page if you friend me, Ann Ceraldi) Perhaps a future topic for you to write about could be horses--what kind you like, what kind of riding you'd like to do, traditional French breeds, etc. Does the organization "pony club" exist in France? I'll bet it does.
Kristen, when was Chief Grape in Asheville?!! I wish I had known--I'm only 2 hours away in Abbeville, South Carolina. (I think Abbeville was named after the French Abbeville) I knew he was going to be in the California Bay Area, but I didn't realize he was going to do an East Coast tour as well. Maybe next time...
I'll be looking for your next post Jackie!
Posted by: ann ceraldi | Saturday, March 12, 2011 at 03:55 PM
Jackie a 13-year old face looks unnatural with a lot of makeup. A little lipstick "suffit!" Heavy black eyeliner on a blond looks very harsh at any age.
Posted by: Ellie Glickman | Saturday, March 12, 2011 at 04:12 PM
Hi Jackie, You are my special 'Angel' - I think you are so beautiful and creative...I love that each day you are growing and changing into all that you are meant to be.
Posted by: Jules Greer | Saturday, March 12, 2011 at 04:33 PM
I wrote a post to Jackie, then later added another, shorter one. But I don't see them here.
Posted by: Marianne Rankin | Saturday, March 12, 2011 at 05:15 PM
I had two girls. So i'm very familiar with this side of the story. A little makeup is fine. Light color Lipstick. My one daughter was a model. Enjoy your beauty!!
Posted by: Kate S | Saturday, March 12, 2011 at 10:04 PM
Jackie, It's been the same through out the ages and there are no boundaries in this world. It's tough being a woman at any age. Your natural beauty is stunning. Try not to hide that natural beauty behind a mask of makeup.
Posted by: Sharon - Montague, Michigan | Saturday, March 12, 2011 at 10:44 PM
GOOD MORNING JACKIE,
Grandma is here to cheer you up! You thought your Mom and Dad were the only ones in the world who didn't understand you!!! Now you know what the real world is like outside your protected home.
There are rules of conduct out in the world Honey, some of the rules are silent, but the silent rules and judgments are built over thousands of years of experience accumulated by people who have been through the war of 'growing up'. They have all experienced what it is like to be a teenager.
Grandma has always worn a lot of make-up. One of the reasons I was able to get away with 'my look' was that I was born with 'Artist Blood'. Of course in the beginning I had to learn all of the steps (some people call steps 'rules'), it is much easier sometimes to think of your life in steps along the path you are traveling on this journey called 'life'.
Right now you are learning the 'two-step'. This is a term in America that relates to dancing - two steps to the left, and two steps to the right. This is part of the dance of life that teaches us how to dodge bullets. Bullets hurt, bullets come in all kinds of camouflage.
A wise traveler here on Earth has learned many lessons throughout his or her journey. One is if you draw too much attention to yourself you become a target...once you are a target you become an object that could shine too brightly in front of a trigger happy fellow traveler.
All of the comments you have received from the above people have come to you in LOVE. They love and care for you or they would NOT HAVE TAKEN THE TIME OUT OF THEIR BUSY LIVES to try to warn you about the pitfalls (that means falling down and scraping you knee til it bleeds and you fall in a ditch.)
All of these commenter's are just trying to warn you to take life slowly, and carefully at this time in your life. They were all teenagers - they have been exactly where you are.
Make-up is an art-form. The true artist learns through practice how to create images that catch another's eye and transport the viewer to another place. Your face and your body style are your own personal canvas...
HAPPY PAINTING HONEY!!!
TAKE SOME ART LESSONS !!!
BE GENTLE WITH YOUR MOM!!!
ALWAYS SPEAK SOFTLY!!!
RUN AROUND THE PERIMETER OF VINEYARD A COUPLE OF TIMES BEFORE YOU PUT ON YOUR MAKE-UP...!
Posted by: Jules Greer | Sunday, March 13, 2011 at 02:20 PM
Ah! comme il est dur de se réveiller et de sortir du lit quand on a envie de dormir! De plus, tu n'aimes pas le collège... alors franchement, pauvre Jackie, quelle vie misérable! Heureusement qu'il y a la passion des chevaux & de l'équitation, tes chiens, tes parents ... etc ... et ... le maquillage!
Le maquillage -à treize ans-? C'est le résultat de la publicité et magazines dont les images hantent ton esprit - tout cela me semble normal et je devine les papotages "maquillage" avec les copines! A ton âge, je pense que le maquillage est une évasion qui te donne l'illusion qu'avec ton maquillage sur le visage, tu es plus belle que tu ne l'es vraiment, par conséquent, on te remarquera plus facilement et tu plairas à ceux qui t'entourent (ce qui te fera plaisir).
Le véritable problème c'est que tu t'obstines à croire / tu aimes croire (et tu voudrais nous faire croire) que ton visage de treize ans n'est pas beau tel qu'il est, donc, tu DOIS te maquiller pour te trouver belle. J'ai vu des photos de toi sans maquillage, et je trouve que ton visage allongé, tes beaux yeux et traits gracieux t'individualisent de manière charmante, et c'est là qu'est ta vraie beauté.
Les couleurs, lignes accentuées ou retouchées du maquillage de ta photo n'attirent l'attention que sur une beauté non seulement artificielle, mais une beauté superficielle et temporaire. Tout maquillage demande aussi un démaquillage! - et tout est à recommencer chaque matin...
Le maquillage à treize ans, -pour aller à l'école- , ne te fera pas plus aimer l'école et les études. Après tout, pour toi qui n'as que 13 ans, à quoi bon de tels efforts de maquillage pour aller passer ta journée dans ce collège que tu avoues ne pas aimer!? De plus, quand tu es en cours, tu ne passes tout de même pas tout ton temps devant un miroir, t'attristant devant ton visage qui n'est pas beau sans maquillage! ... ce qui est faux de toute façon! Allez, mets-toi dans la tête que tout le monde (sauf toi) aime ton visage, tel qu'il est, spécialement quand tu y mets un sourire!
La photo à gauche du paragraphe 'maquillage' est assez bleutée, ce qui rend le visage très blanc et le cou et les cheveux bleuâtres. Cela ne me gêne pas trop mais franchement, ce qui est vraiment horrible (pour moi tout au moins), c'est l'effet produit par la couche de rouge plaquée sur tes lèvres! Ok, ce point de vue est purement subjectif, (stp, excuse ma sincérité), mais tu vois, je n'aime pas le résultat 'plastifié' et artificiel.
Je reviendrai répondre à ton appel aux lecteurs sur ce qui te semble injuste de la part de tes parents.
Posted by: Newforest | Sunday, March 13, 2011 at 04:35 PM
Merci pour l'histoire. When I was your age my parents felt the same way. It wasn't a huge deal for me because I loved the natural look anyway and I know most boys like only a bit of makeup as well. I'm 40 now and my husband still feels that way!
That said, I understand your feelings and I'm happy your Mom gave you the chance to express them. I think so many readers have offered good ideas. I think a makeup artist is a good way to go. Most dept. stores offer free makeup sessions. They can help you find a balance. It's so important to protect your skin from the sun so how about a slightly tinted moisturizer with sun protection, a little blush, lip gloss and mascara? That's still what I wear at my age most of the time,unless I'm going somewhere special and even then I never overdo it. At my age it's hard to find natural makeup that doesn't "sink" into wrinkles and make you look worse so it's better to get used to looking more natural at your age. Your Mom doesn't look like she wears much and she's also beautiful.
You're a gorgeous girl with a beautiful smile and eyes who should be proud of your natural beauty. I loved the photo of you lighting candles in the church and the one of you on the bench with your parents on vacation. You looked very natural and stunning! Don't rush to look so adult and enjoy your youth!
Bonne chance and I hope to meet you and your family someday when I'm in Provence next time. Give kisses to Braise and Smokey. I wish my 2 dogs could play with them among the vines!
Posted by: Carolyn in Vermont | Sunday, March 13, 2011 at 05:35 PM
A ton appel aux lecteurs concernant l'injustice de tes parents à ton égard, vais-je répondre qu'ils ont raison?
Tes parents t'interdisent le maquillage que tu as acheté toi-même, avec ton propre argent. A première vue, cela me semble injuste, et sur ce point, je serais d'accord avec toi - OUI MAIS..., avant l'achat de ton maquillage, ne savais-tu pas qu'ils te l'interdiraient pour aller au collège? Pensais-tu vraiment les faire changer d'avis? Il semble inutile d'aller contre leur point de vue et il n'y aura plus de discussion à ce sujet quand tu iras au Lycée. Dis-toi que si tu as une belle peau, et que tu la protèges, tu as déjà gagné la partie!
Maintenant, tu vas rire... Hier, j'ai montré une copie de ta photo (visage maquillé) à trois Londoniennes âgées de 28 à 30 ans - photo sans le texte. Elles ne savent pas du tout qui tu es. Je leur ai demandé de deviner ton âge. Réponse: elles pensaient que tu étais un peu plus jeune qu'elles, et que tu avais certainement entre dix-sept et vingt-cinq ans. Je leur ai dit qu'elles se trompaient! Quand elles ont su que tu n'avais que treize ans, l'une d'elle a dit: that sort of makeup? How weird! What does she think she's doing? What is she trying to achieve? J'ai laissé tomber la conversation!
Avant que tu ailles au Lycée, conserve ton maquillage pour week-ends, anniversaires, fêtes et évènements plus mémorables que les journées au collège! Apprends à bien te maquiller sans te peinturlurer, et copier n'importe qui. Le maquillage, c'est tout un ART! Il y a dans les commentaires de très bons conseils à suivre pour produire UN EFFET NATUREL qui, j'en suis sûre, t'irait à per-fec-tion!... de quoi mettre un immense sourire sur ton joli visage ... et te sentir bien dans ta peau!
Posted by: Newforest | Sunday, March 13, 2011 at 05:54 PM
Thank you to everyone who took the time to respond to Jackie's post. I am shaking my head in appreciation; so many caring and thoughtful replies... I found myself applying my own make-up with a little more lightness... as everyone's words echoed in my mind: "less is more", "just a bit of gloss", "a little bit of mascara for those with blond eyelashes". I haven't told Jackie this... but when I was her age I wore twice as much make-up. Shhhhh!
Posted by: Kristin Espinasse | Sunday, March 13, 2011 at 07:47 PM
Je suis desolet. I am no longing receiving my word a day e-mails. I have been out of town and wonder if something has changed. Please please. Merci.
Posted by: Barbara Michels | Monday, March 14, 2011 at 12:58 AM
From New York City,
Un tres grand BRAVO pour "MAMA et PAPA"
Ils ont raison, Jackie. Tu es encore jeune pour le maquillage and you don't need to look like every Jackie in the world. En plus de ça,ton visage est tres jolie and unique.
Posted by: nanou | Monday, March 14, 2011 at 03:01 AM
Ahhh...to be 13 again and wanting to wear makeup when my parents said no. This is certainly the eternal struggle. Now that I am a makeup artist and aesthetician I find myself wearing less and less. I agree with a previous responder that the more you wear makeup the less you will like your natural self. What is essential? Properly cleansing your skin, eye cream and sunscreen. Everything else is optional.
Posted by: Lille de France | Monday, March 14, 2011 at 04:20 AM
I would suggest a compromise. On the days you get yourself up without your mother's help you can wear makeup. If your mom has to wake you no make up. With adult privileges come adult responsibilities.
Posted by: Mary | Wednesday, March 16, 2011 at 02:56 PM
Hey Jackie, You are a very very lucky girl. You have two great loving and caring parents.Listen to them! From a 79 year old man who has seen a lot.
Posted by: Rod Crislip | Wednesday, March 16, 2011 at 09:21 PM
Haha...."run around the perimeter of the vineyard..."!!! Puts roses in your cheeks and a smile on your face....best makeup in the world...great advice from your lovely Grandma!! ;-)
Posted by: Gretel | Thursday, March 17, 2011 at 12:00 AM
Je pense que si vous avez une belle peau, vous ne devez jamais porter de base de maquillage. Les jeunes filles ne se rendent pas compte combien elles sont belles sans maquillage, mais c'est amusant d'essayer quelques couleurs claires pour les yeux, les lèvres et les joues lorsque vous êtes sur le point 17.
Posted by: RobinC | Thursday, March 17, 2011 at 04:42 AM
Jackie, I think you do not even realize how beautiful you are. My own gorgeous daughter Taylor is now 26 and wears very little makeup. It is true what all these comments are telling you: your natural beauty is awesome. Thank you for your great story. As an English teacher of 35 years, I cannot wait to read more. From your friend "Jackie" in Pennsylvania--
Posted by: Jacqueline Gill | Thursday, March 17, 2011 at 02:34 PM
Chères Kristin et Jackie,
Un petit mot pour Jackie. Il vaut pour ce qu'il vaut, mais il est de moi:
"Il est joli de peindre des fleurs mais c'est criminel de peindre sur une fleur"
De Tahour Ben Jelloun:
" Le maquillage est le linceul de la beauté"
De Caroline de Monaco (à ton âge et même plus):
"Mon meilleur maquillage, c'est le soleil" ( à petite dose bien sûr!)
"Un maquillage réussi est un maquillage qui ne se voit pas"
PS: oublie le fond de teint, ça bouche les pores, ça salit les cols des vêtements, ça donne des boutons et mal posé, c'est pathétique! Yeuk à éliminer de la trousse de maquillage.
Bisous de Carol
Posted by: Carol in Belgium | Thursday, March 17, 2011 at 02:38 PM
HI Jackie! I am in favor of a little bit of make-up at your age but not too much! If you wear eye liner that is thick and black you will have nothing but the weird and creepy guys giving you attention! The cool guys will avoid you. Is that what you want? No!! So stick to a little foundation and lip gloss! You are beautiful!!!
Posted by: Natalie Shaby | Friday, March 18, 2011 at 03:16 AM
J'ai une fille de 14 ans. Je lui permettre de se maquiller, mais pas nécessairement tous les jours. Elle peut utiliser le maquillage quand elle sort quelquepart avec ses amis (ex. pour voir un film, magasiner, etc). Elle est également libre de l'utiliser pour couvrir les boutons (le problème de la peau habituel chez les adolescentes!) Tant que cela semble naturel, je pense que c'est "ok".
Bonne chance avec tes parents! Et excusez-moi pour mes erreurs! ;-)
Posted by: Colette G., Ottawa, Canada | Monday, March 21, 2011 at 09:40 PM
Smokey says "Mama Braise, You keep your eye on it and I'll go around this way to get it."
Posted by: DJ | Thursday, March 24, 2011 at 07:44 PM
I am leaning french at school and reading your stories help me see how some of the things I learn can be applied.
as for the makeup... I wasn't allowed to wear makeup to school untill I was about your age but I never did (and still don't) wear as much as you are describing. I suggest you compromise with your pearents start by just wearing un petit peu de liner et mascara
Posted by: Alex | Tuesday, March 29, 2011 at 06:03 AM
et ben...I think I gave up the makeup fight with my beautiful daughter at around age 13. However, I think that fond de teinte est beaucoup trop a cet age. (and at age 15, my daughter has never used it.) Have fun with a little mascara, etc. Leave the heavy makeup for later. Have fun!
Posted by: Dana R. | Monday, August 01, 2011 at 03:20 PM
13 isn't too young to wear a little makeup, it IS however a little young to willing succumb to the slavery of a cosmetic industry and the idea that you aren't good enough. You are good enough. I've ended on the other extreme having only rarely worn makeup throughout my life. Sure I could have been prettier, but my skin is much much better than my friends who've been ravaged by cosmetics for 35 years. Plus with me my man wakes up with the same woman he went to bed with the night before. So, where is the sweet spot? The ideal compromise between these positions. First learn to love your real face. Makeup should enhance it, not disguise it. When you make that mental switch your parents will likely be more willing to let you wear it. Second, be careful to take care of your skin. After all, it's your biggest organ.
Posted by: Twyla | Monday, August 01, 2011 at 04:50 PM
Quand tu s'agrandi, tu dirai merci a ta maman pour t'laisse etre un enfant.
Je te prie de pardon ma francais.
Andre (pere de 4 enfants et grandpere de 2 petites enfants)
Posted by: Andre Ruellan | Monday, August 01, 2011 at 06:12 PM
Felicitations, c'est un blog super!
Posted by: Andre | Monday, August 29, 2011 at 01:33 AM
Jackie - je pense que tu es trop jeune pour le maquillage. Et aussi, ton visage et trop beau sans maquillage!
Mike - un grandpere anglais de 72 ans et de l'Afrique du Sud.
Posted by: Mike | Monday, December 05, 2011 at 02:29 PM
Braise: Dang it, beans always have that affect on me!!
Smokey: Enough said, I'm outta here!!
Posted by: Simon | Monday, December 05, 2011 at 07:52 PM
Je suis un garcon qui a 15 ans. Peut-etre mon avis n'est pas le meme que les garcons en France, mais je crois qu'en generale le maquillage n'aide pas beaucoup. Le visage sans le maquillage est plus joli que le visage avec trop du maquillage. C'est vraiment facile se ruiner le visage, les yeux. Aie de la courage et n'utilise pas le maquillage. Ma copine ne l'utilise jamais (ou presque jamais) et elle semble superbe!
Merci pour ton histoire!
Posted by: Timothy Mesyanzhinov | Tuesday, December 06, 2011 at 03:20 AM
Aux Etats-Unis il y a beaucoup de filles qui se maquille plus. Moi, je vais au lycée et ça brule mes yeuxs voir les filles avec le maquillage plus. Je crois que le maquillage est bon pour accentuer le visage mais pas quand c'est tout que vous peuvez voir sur le visage. Oui, je sais que je parle comme une vache espagnol mais j'essaye pratiquer quand je peux. Malheureusement, il n'y a pas beaucoup de chance pour pratiquer. :(
Posted by: Jesse Liston | Friday, December 09, 2011 at 02:45 AM
When I was your age, I too was not allowed to wear make-up to school except for mascara and lipgloss. And you know that is just fine for someone your age. You see, make-up is not supposed to "create" beauty, it is to "enhance" beauty.
Tu ma petite choux ont été bénit avec une abondance de beauté comme ta mère, et ta grand-mère. Ne précipitez pas votre vie loin. Bientôt vous serez dehors dans le fonctionnement du monde et vous estimerez que c'est une douleur dans le bout pour mettre cette gunk sur journalier. Croyez que je que je connais de ce que je parle. Aimez ce moment où vous ne faites pas "require" maquillage. En outre, je n'ai jamais vu trois femmes plus beaux que tu, Kristin, et Jules. Bonne chance ma petite!
Posted by: Deborah Rice | Wednesday, March 28, 2012 at 04:26 PM