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You'll love this term for "family reunion"!

The picnic tables strung together
This weekend there were more than 30 of us seated at the table for our family reunion in Fuveau. Listen to the previous sentence, in French, below.

"une cousinade"

    : family reunion

Click here to listen to Jean-Marc read the next sentence in French

Ce week-end nous étions une trentaine de personnes à table, lors de notre cousinade à Fuveau


by Kristi Espinasse

On our way to our family reunion (which, I just learned, the French call charmingly enough une cousinade, Jean-Marc added a total of 5--five-- delivery and pick-ups to our journey--in keeping with his efficient nature! This meant that instead of a direct route to Fuveau, and a later departure, we were now going to stop in La Ciotat and then weave in and out of the impossibly narrow streets of Marseilles in order to deliver wine (and pick up another family member. This last part doesn't count in my grumblings. Neither does the fifth stop (to the cimetière in Fuveau, where, in front of his father's 32 year-old grave, we held hands with our hitchhikers (my belle-mère and ma belle-soeur) as well Jean-Marc's brother, Jacques, and his adopted family. Reaching for the back of Jean-Marc's shirt to stem my tears, I forgot about early morning alarm and all the rushing around, and could only think how lucky I was to be a part of this close-knit family who remained incredibly stoic during the impromptu tribute.

Last stop: Geneviève's (Jean-Marc's father's sister), where memories were about to come flooding back to the day Jean-Marc first brought me here to a previous cousinade (assembly of cousins?) 24 years ago. The house and the property are the same, but Jean-Marc and I kept remarking how exceptionally beautiful is all was. Perhaps after trying to keep up our own home and garden we can now appreciate the yard work, and le soin it takes to keep an old mas in good shape.

Michou michele-france jacques
Aunt Michou (read quenelles story), left, Michèle-France (read "bodyguard"), and Jacques, who taught me to make the famous French Yogurt Cake

We arrived 30 minutes early, thanks to our efficient livreur, and found plenty of shade beneath the trees and coolness atop the soft mossy grass. Early-birds, we had the chance to watch all the family walk through the front gate...

Cousins from Aix-en-Provence, cousins from Chateauneuf-du-Pape, cousins from Paris, more cousins from Fuveau... The elders looked youthful and the youths now looked like adults....

French cousins
The kids still call it the "kids table" (la table des enfants) whether or not it's still true! Our son Max, left, cousins, cousins, and Jackie second to the right. Farther back, the adults.

Five folding picnic tables were set side by side to accommodate over 30 family members in comfort and style (Uncle Jean-Claude of Châteauneuf-du-Pape, who is featured as one of France's Top 50 Winemakers) added the finishing touches by placing tree leaves beside the Gerber Daisies. Magnums of Jean-Marc's Mas des Brun Rosé and bottles of Jean-Claude's Domaine du Banneret were added, bien sûr!

We soon congregated around the covered patio, parallel to the main house, to sample the delicious line-up of appetizers. Deep-fried zucchini, samosas, hummus, and pizza tided us over before the couscous arrived (and a choice of  agneau with pois chiches or poulet with green olives and lemon).

After lunch we found many ways to cool off in la canicule:  dive-bombing into the pool or chasing each other around the yard with squirt-guns (this began with the youngest, two-year-old Baptiste, who chortled with laughter while dousing everyone. But, in the end, you had to keep all eyes on the elders, who really got into the game. Everything went to pot when old and young began grabbing for buckets, which were the best revenge!). 

As I sat at the table or walked around Genevieve's house and garden (among so many drenched family members), familiar objects brought back memories--from the coconut ice-bucket that appeared each year on the table (brought, each time, by cousins Pierre and Muriel who originally received the exotic bucket as part of a flower arrangement--only to discover it made the perfect ice box!) , to the hidden loft inside the house (how Jean-Marc wanted to show me that all those years ago...) , to the missing swing set (recently replaced by two veggie beds, to the great disappointment of my brother-in-law, Jacques. The second youngest cousin, back then, he flew high into the air thanks to the bigger cousins, who gladly swung him).

At the well or puit looking for that famous bottle of champage
Our son Max, Jean-Marc, Cousin François, and Jacques, in front of le puits, where at each get-together a lot of scheming goes on about how to retrieve that decades-old, well-chilled bottle of champagne at the bottom of the well. It was Jean-Marc's father, Gérard, who came closest one year. Only, when reaching water level he could not (or would not!) contort himself within the narrow well so as to go head down into the water. His grandson, Max, on hearing of his grandfather's near-win, was game to try. Thankfully, at 22, Max still sometimes asks his mom for permission. (My answer: NO!!)

Mariem cecile genevieve sabine
Cécile, Geneviève, and cousin Sabine.

Thank you, Geneviève, for getting us all together. Les cousinades at your home--and at your sisters and nephews and sometimes chez nous--will always be some of the happiest times of our lives. And the souvenirs we made, Saturday, are treasures to be enjoyed over and over again in our minds.

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To leave a comment, look for the link at the end of this post. Talk about the importance of family reunions and share your stories.

une cousinade = family reunion
la belle-mère = mother-in-law (also can mean "step-mother")
la belle-soeur = sister-in-law
le soin = care
le mas = old French country-house/farmhouse
le livreur = delivery man
un agneau = lamb
le pois chiche = chickpea or garbanzo bean
le poulet = chicken
la canicule = heatwave

Ceciles bench
The bench Cécile made for us, in our dining room.

Good news for my sister-in-law, furniture-maker Cécile Espinasse. She will be permanently showing her designs (furniture) at a boutique in Aix-en-Provence. If you find yourself in Aix, please stop in to see her (call ahead, to make sure she'll be there).

The boutique is called  "Aix Potentiels"
La boutique des créateurs provençaux
7/9 rue fermée 13100 Aix en Provence
Du lundi au samedi de 10h à 19h
Family at the table
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Eileen deCamp

Hi Kristi,

What a fun get together! The photos show how much fun everyone had together! I heard that it is very hot there in France! My friend is visiting the lavender fields and she said it was 40ºC


Lovely family Kristi - enjoy the conviviality! Et Les memoirs...

Robin Howard

Hi Kristi,

How good it was to see such gathering with not a mobile phone or iPad in sight.


What a great story and a wonderful family. I love the word "cousinade."


In my experience it's not easy to integrate oneself into a new family in a foreign land - it took me 30 or more years to feel at home in Yorkshire after the suburbs of London ... so you have done brilliantly Kristi. I love your stories of the extended family - and the generous way you share them with those of us who don't have that in our lives. If I count my family on both hands, I can still only get to 3 (4 at a stretch) and that's including me! But I tell myself that small can also be beautiful and every family is different. I just think it's hard on the children sometimes and that the dynamics of an extended family can be (though not always) less fraught.

Kristin Espinasse

Margaret, you bring up  a very good point about integrating into a foreign family. I admit to being *quite* tipsy at the first cousinade, where the flow of wine made it easy to forget my anxiety. I will look for that story, as I do recall writing it down. 

As for your extended family, please count me in! 

Kristin Espinasse

Alright, roaring drunk! 


Thank you for sharing your cousinade. Takes me back to our family gatherings. And fun memories.


Wow, what a cousinade! And everyone so jolly and having fun. Would love all the recipes!


What a wonderful post, Kristi. I, too, like Margaret, have a very small family. I so enjoy seeing others get together in large, wonderful groups. Very happy.


Thank you for sharing your family with us. I have always dreamed of living in France. While I am lucky enough to visit often, it is not the same as actually living there. Your stories fuel my dreams.


I just love this post! Makes me want to pack up and move to the South of France right now! What a lovely gathering you all had! Thank you for all of the wonderful stories...

John Nevin

I hope you know how lucky you are.


Kristin, How absolutely lovely! I envy your French family and life!!! xoxox :)

Diane Heinecke

Kristin, what a blessing that so many family members made the effort to convene! I hear so many excuses when I suggest a "cousinade." Work schedules (weekday and weekend), school activities, summer camps, boarding the dogs or cats, etc. ad nauseam. Thank you for taking and posting the pictures. Enjoy those memories forever.


What an absolutely joyous occasion!! Thank you for sharing!!


Our dear Kristi,
What an absolutely wonderful cousinade,filled with love,laughter and good food!
It just wraps itself around our hearts,especially after some of our own family get togethers where the atmosphere was,alas, something less than joyful occasions to remember!
We haven't seen your dear belle mere or Aunt Michou in awhile,and they both look terrific and happy(as do all of the participants)!
Thank you for bringing us smiles and hugs(as always!)
Natalia XO


What a beautiful reunion you had! The food looks and sounds delicious and I love the smiles on your faces.


Such precious times together are to be treasured, especially as the oldest generation passes on. Bravo to you and your family for making the time and effort to gather like this. And I love the term "la cousinade". I'll be using it on our visit to France this month!

Cerelle Bolon

YOU ARE RIGHT! As a nut about genealogy and blessed to have found many cousins, this is just wonderful, and hearing Jean-Marc's lovely clear pronunciation makes it all the better! From your Phoenix 'cousin' in spirit, Cerelle

Chris Allin

You have such a great sense of humor! And a huge amount of courage...

Chris Allin

Dear Kristi,
What a wonderful narrative about your family reunion! Very impressive to see tables set with porcelain plates, glasses and flatware, rather than the paper plates, cups and plasticware one might find at a reunion in our family! I felt like I was there, enjoying watching the fun and comraderie among the generations. The pictures of your relatives brought everyone to life. And the special, poignant moment visiting Jean-Marc's father was so very touching. Thank you for sharing. It is reinforcing to read about the value of family.

P.S. Congratulations to Cécile. Well deserved based on her gorgeous bench at your dining table!

Chris Allin

Dear Kristi,
What a wonderful narrative about your family reunion! Very impressive to see tables set with porcelain plates, glasses and flatware, rather than the paper plates, cups and plasticware one might find at a reunion in our family! I felt like I was there, enjoying watching the fun and comraderie among the generations. The pictures of your relatives brought everyone to life. And the special, poignant moment visiting Jean-Marc's father was so very touching. Thank you for sharing. It is reinforcing to read about the value of family.

P.S. Congratulations to Cécile. Well deserved based on her gorgeous bench at your dining table!


C'était bien la cousinade,tout le monde semblait si heureux avec les sourires aux lèvtres.
Kristi, je t'ai écrit l'autre jour que j'ai rencontrẽ quelqu'un dans le train pour Cassis. Elle vient de La Ciotat. Elle nous a fait voir sa ville, en voiture. C'est une ville assez sympa. A la fin de la journée, elle s'est arrêtée à la Boutique "Côté Vignes" pour acheter du vin, connais-tu cette boutique? J'ai bien demandé si on connaissait Les Espinasses, mais le vendeur a dit non. C'est "la Domaine du Cagueloup".C'est pour dire que je pensais à vous ce jour-là.


Lovely, lovely, Kristi!! Your two are certainly beautiful young adults! God bless, C-Marie


Quelle belle fete! Listening to Jean-Marc's sentence three times, I wondered about "week-end". Le "d" sur "weekend" ne se prononce pas?
I loved the table setting outside for 30.

Diane Young

Loved reading about the family reunion, which brought back warm memories of long ago. I'm now the 2nd oldest of many cousins, the oldest about to turn 96, so there are any years of memories before we spread out in several parts of the USA.
Vive la familia!


Who laid the table with the forks upside down...

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